Men + Women
Reflecting on Men
Recently, I have been questioning what it means to be a man. No, I am not a man. I'm a woman. I wonder about how different men are from say, 100 years ago.
I think its really interesting that when men are asked the question "what do you want in life?" the answer is pretty consistent. They usually just want a wife and children.
What am I getting at? nothing, really. I am simply reflecting on what it means to be a man.
I wonder about that simple answer all the time. Are men simply more true to themselves than women are now? Or are they focused on what is true happiness and nothing else can surmount that core need?
If you were to give a man a wife and children and with that a happy home, would he have any need to look elsewhere? Or would he have any need to stick onto certain ideologies and isms? Probably not and probably yes.
The times that we are in, are they bad because our grandparents and parents had it very good? Did they ruin it for us or did something more nefarious ruin it as our lives were being weaved into existence?
What does it mean to be a man now? What is our collective life experience now, as men and women if not superficial, utterly confusing and lacking in feeling and unity?
Reflecting on Women
I think about how other women live their lives now often. If you ask a woman the question of, "what do you want in life?" It seems that many will answer material desires or status. You have a fair amount that answer that they want kids too. I wonder why that is the case, and if the issue we have with unity and our own personal selves in relation to the outside is what is actually causing the differences in replies. I know the answer, I just don't think its necessary to dispel at the moment. Then I wonder about the pecking order of women, and how it applies to the pecking order of social media. It's one of the reasons I avoid social media. It's made for narcissistic women, there is no benefit to it.
Male and Female Society
Society used to be balanced. Every civilized Society had both consequence and a polite side.
In the past, mens actions were kept in check by dueling, by fighting, and by the general ranking of respect. There was a code that was followed by all men, and it still is in some societies (though maybe not dueling). Male children (and female children too though a different topic) had several paternal figures to show them order and keep them in check.
Women are the soft face of society. Women can rear children, they can take care of them better, they are the weaker sex.
Physical infighting is not common in women, things are kept in check by ostracizing disordered women and the general pecking order that women have is heirarchical and incredibly strict in polite society.
So, to summarize, society has always been about balance and control.
What is happening in the West is that the balance is skewed one way. Men are told that they have 'toxic' masculinity. They are hated for being men.
What does Toxic Masculinity mean? It means that men are too outward about their inherent maleness. What are they supposed to be then, if not male? In this society, they must be in touch with the feminine, and forget the maleness. Maleness is seen as evil, rather than a force of good.
Men are no longer allowed to act out consequences when societal rules are broken, to correct behavior with other males, to have a ranking and honor system.
Polite society has taken over. Now you are left with effeminate men, men that do not understand the code and do not uphold it with others, and absentee fathers that have no weight nor care in their childrens lives. You essentially create a society without paternal figures one way or the other.
What happens then?
A couple of things.
A large amount of men without fathers, which leads to:
A resurgence of male aggression, and an inversion of the traditional code of honor.
You have men that don't care about women, that care more about being masculine while rejecting all aspects of the feminine, men that ultimately hate women because they are tired of being told that they take up space.
There are no sound paternal figures to follow anymore. The government is upholding the law, sure, but it's not.
So what happens when the government stops to fully uphold the law and you have no sound male figures to defend the weaker sex? No honor code that tells you that you have to defend women and children?
Chaos.
But hey, I'm just reflecting here. I'm not entirely done thinking about the topic.